HOW CAN LIFE PERFORMANCE IMPROVE?

It's pointless trying to 'do' anything - this is, in fact, the whole problem. Hence, why recovery is to 'not do' as you're already doing too much. You cannot control what's already happened and as you may now understand - what you're already 'coming out of'.

   The following are phrases/statements, which I have also thought of in my quest for understanding!

* Please note - this is from a 'fighter's' perspective, so not 'all' situations will apply to the 'flighter'(see Journal 2 onwards).

'You can't help being yourself, but you can help running away.'

(Effectively the difference between primary and secondary thinking)

'You gain natural control without having to take a 'second' look. This secondary control is the temptation to think about thinking.'

(ref: trying to control thoughts after they have happened - an impossible task. These thoughts then become bigger)

'To accept all your thoughts, you need to place ultimate trust in yourself. This can be a very scary process as you are likely to have a very active mind -especially in times of stress, this will be a big test.'

'You are allowing yourself to move on, not only in your thoughts, but also in life.'

(ref: getting 'stuck')

'The fact is, you have to be honest with yourself. Accepting how you feel can be a difficult/painful process, but its' bark is far louder than its' bite.'

'Follow your nose. Your instincts may tell you to let go, but you're tempted to hold on - don't.'

'I now, no longer find myself questioning my thoughts/actions - no more getting stuck - I'm in flow.'

'Panic left me struggling to concentrate when others were talking to me - I know this doesn't happen now.'

'Self-doubt is often characterized by tension, confidence by calm.'

'Remember, true self-confidence is knowing you will try and that is good enough.'

'It is also knowing that NORMAL has many translations.'

'Avoiding making an issue of our thoughts gives us that natural flow and harmony - a place where we can maximise our personal performance in life.'

'Fear of Fear - the fear is ok, the fear of fear needs to be dealt with.'

(ie - if you're stressed it's ok, but if you have a fear of stress, then this is your problem - ref: going from pt 1. to 3. MORD)

'Don't fight to get back in after you've already 'come out''

Are you a deep thinker?

Do you 'spell' things out in your mind?

Are you ever guilty of trying too hard/putting yourself under pressure to get things right?

Would you describe yourself as a 'thinker', rather than someone who is very spontaneous/automatic?

Do you like things to be ordered?

Do you find it difficult to multitask?

Do you give the impression that you're sometimes wary of certain types of people and them of you?

Do you sometimes stare or get fixated with things?

Do you worry constantly/feel guilty?

Do you think your thoughts are not normal?

Are you always 'thinking'?

Do you possibly exaggerate illness/become paranoid?

Do you struggle to cope with the 'grey areas' of life?

Do you struggle to 'let go' of things once they're in your head?

Do you feel 'compelled' to act on certain thoughts?

Are you always 'aware' of what/how you're thinking?

Do you put yourself under too much pressure to get everything right?

'You may, therefore, be susceptible to panic.'

'Remember - 'excessive' worrying is self-doubt - self-doubt is secondary'.

Self-doubt is also not knowing that you can be you - the 'thinking' is ok - it's the 'thinking about thinking' which is the problem.

What is 'letting go'? Well - this is simply letting your natural 'cut-off' mechanisms work. This 'will' all take place subconsciously - if you let it. Therefore - to 'take the right path' - you 'don't' have to consciously 'do' anything.

'Panic is basically about making an issue of things that don't have to be made an issue of - hence, why recovery is a 'not do'.'

'There is a fine line between greatness and despair.'

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