So...moving on - the reason understanding our problem is so important is that this moves us away from the temptation to post-thought analyse/find some doing solution to totally control our angst.
This movement into post-thought analysing is typified by the mind racing/tensing. It's a very subtle transition but one that becomes an exhausting process of think-react-think-react.
Giving the example of suddenly being worried about where our child is - this is what is described as the 'spike' - that moment of recognition where you suddenly feel panicked and uncomfortable (at our cut-off point).
Whilst that initial thought we can do nothing about - what we do next is so important and this is where we can make such a difference.
Forcing ourselves to get a head-talking solution to that discomforting thought may be typified by us then stalling in our minds and trying to force a 'saying' solution to work out our child's whereabouts...however if we avoid this reaction by deflecting that temptation to panic head talk, we will then let other thoughts come into our head as we are staying in calmer momentary flow (see also 'Quiz Show' example Ch 1).
Whilst, of course, many of us would realise it's completely acceptable that we may feel like panicking - it certainly won't help us and will, instead, create a mental block.
There are many situations and examples depicted in the book if you want to see how this works in reality.
What's also important is that sufferers realise they may have these sensations many times due to their intense/worrying nature.
Example: You may leave the house and suddenly think ''have I left the iron on?'. Instead of making a momentary decision to go back/not go back and check, the panic sufferer can quite easily enter further 'Analysis Paraysis' rounds of 'why do I think like this? Am I weak/stupid? Surely I did but what if there's a house fire, let me retrace my steps before and after'. Grey areas and dilemmas like this don't give clear answers and again move us away from making momentary decisions so that we stop in our mind flow and head-talk an answer.
Indeed, whilst you may feel initial relief from calming and not fighting your thoughts - the longer term will have many trials as you get used to this new era. Times when you are stressed will take faith to stick at non-inteference as your compulsion will be to do exactly what you've been used to doing. You may even think it's unacceptable to allow yourself to trust your flow to cope with stresses - given time you will realise that you move through life's trials much better if you trust in your moment and don't interfere with your cut-off to gain control.
''The Mind Works'' (Book/Ebook) by Will Beswick:
A review by Nicki Starkey. The 'National Phobics Society' 23 July 07 (*Review of pre-updated final version)
'The Mind Works' is one man's powerful, personal account of his struggles with panic and anxiety…. Beswick also makes it clear how all types of panic and anxiety are related on the panic spectrum, and can manifest themselves in different ways. In his own case, this was in the form of illness phobia whilst at college. Beswick then begins to outline his own theory on how ‘the mind works’. Put briefly, this theory explains that we are either ‘fighters’ or ‘flighters’. Fighters internalise their panic and flighters externalise theirs. Beswick explains how he overcame his panic by realising that his panic was ‘secondary thinking’ - an internal process that was ongoing. He introduces a number of concepts, such as COPAST- concept of primary and secondary thinking. These are explained in great detail with examples to demonstrate their meaning. As the reader, we are gradually encouraged to find faith in our natural coping abilities..…The author uses a number of diagrams and workable examples for the reader to attempt. He also includes a number of responses to e-mails from readers of his own website (www.doyoupanic.co.uk) where he clarifies any points raised about his theories. It also means that he can tailor his answers to particular phobias or types of anxiety and explain how they work.... The author has also included contributions from other therapists, such as John Crawford’s explanation of OCD, which I also found very helpful. As well as this, he provides links to helpful articles, and opens the discussion up to include related subjects such as eating disorders and medication, and how these relate to his theories.
Overall I was very impressed with the content and layout of this book.. it is written in a way that will help many readers to rationalise what they are experiencing and help them to look at the issues in a new light. It uses good examples, positive language and a personal approach that will strike a chord with many readers.... Nicki