Teaching us to stay 'on' task
This provision has thankfully helped many sufferers of stress, panic, anxiety and the many associated repetitive coping behaviours which often follow. The whole purpose of this talking facility is to help sufferers understand that the mind 'can' cope with stressful, intense and often multiple negative situations without the ensuing panic.
'Flow Tuition' is a one:one, or group talking session where I call you via Mob/Landline, or via phone call SKYPE. Sessions focus on sufferers being given 'manageable' steps to take the pressure 'off' having to fight/flight any discomforting thoughts - teaching you how to resume your flow. Whilst giving immediate relief, this also gives you the chance to develop better long term habits.
Just ask for a form at firstname.lastname@example.org and simply put 'Request Form' in the title box. Many Thanks Will
Here are some recent comments...
Subject: RE: Updating
Date: Fri, 4 Oct 2013 18:10:18 +0300
Hi once and
once again Will!
Well.. I "tried" cutting off coffee 2 days ago, well today I drank
I thought it would be good idea to stay off the coffee for a while, but I got a
terrible headache and I felt so tired all the time, which of course lowered my
mood. Felt pretty "depressed" (well at least something like that),
and when I drank the coffee today, I started feeling pretty good again my mood
lifted up and I once again could go on with the activities with full interest.
So I guess I'm not leaving coffee, but it sometimes I get so messed up when I
read shit about coffee (or anything that could harm my mental health)
from the internet. I guess if you drink like 10 cups of coffee, then it might
be bad for your mental health, but since I drink only 1-2 cups/day normally, I
should be just fine..
Did you ever have the feeling that something in your diet (or anything that
you'd "might" do wrong physically) wasn't "just
right" and it would affect your 'brains' or something in chemistry..? Because
I get pretty often "messed" up about those things.
I kind of feel low mostly nowadays, instead of being anxious, and actually thought this a couple days ago, but I've noticed that the most annoying part of "being confused" has actually now left me pretty much during our conversations. I sure
do feel confused still at times, but not the same way I used to feel.
Hi L - yes the internet can be
very bad at times! One sufferer recently said that I had allowed her to 'take
part' in her own recovery - this is why I say that 'as' long as we don't go to
excess then really we should not be making our mental mood that much lower or
anxious....so I would not believe that coffee is altogether bad for us mentally
as long as its in moderation. When you feel low - remember that this 'will'
happen still as we take our journey towards becoming stronger in our flow. We
ALL have tough times and we ALL can make greater strides towards becoming
better as dealing with life's struggles.
particularly are prone to depression - but you will become better able to get
through this if you flow and allow positives to come in and make you stronger -
of course this is all covered in the book - but there are things that I used to worry
about re 'what' people thought of me/me doing things wrong/'imperfectly' etc
but now I am far more resilient as I have taken that tough though calmer journey 'through'
these events without panicking about them. It is only the follow-on panic that
will stop you from surviving and moving through life - no gain without pain is
unfortunately a very true saying but something we either face - calmly
and resolutely - or panic about by consciously fighting/flighting it. cheers Will
Thanks again Will feel free to put this on your comments page - really helps being able to talk this through as there were bits I needed clearing up - now when I feel that panic I really have so much more confidence that its not just me! Feeling alone is so much the cause of that 'follow up' as you say....regards Sandra....24/9/13 just to add Will, sometimes I feel such a rush of relief when things click, but this is usually only very short-lived! This week has been one of real revelation for me - I feel so in control just by knowing 'how' to let it all go passed me. Thanks again S
24 Aug 2013
Just wanted to give you a quick update and thank you for helping me over the past few weeks. I've been feeling much better and not reacting to the thoughts like I was before. It's true what you say in your book about operating on a fine line. I still have the thoughts about blushing but they are not as overpowering because I've not been reacting to it. Also when I've had instances when I've felt my face heating up, I've just tried to relax my mind which really seems to help it pass. Before when I could feel the heat in my face I think I was trying to relax physically and not mentally which didn't work, does this make sense?. I've also realised that I'd been feeling under the weather for a few weeks with cold/flu like symptoms which probably contributed to my frenzy. I was also at home for a few weeks in the uk, which was great but when I'm going back to Hong Kong, saying goodbye is always a real strain on me. Thinking back these two things probably had more of an effect on me than I realised. I just hope now I can continue with this calmer outlook that I'm having at the moment. I'm also thinking about starting acupuncture, I've read that it can have great benefits to people with anxiety issues. Anyway, thanks again Will
Date: Mon, 11 Mar 2013 11:19:51 Hi Will and yes no problem with me reporting back. Felt so much better yesterday and can really see how this all fits in now - took me time eh!! LOL! Nevertheless such a serious side to this and nobody really seems to know what's going on out there. My GP is a saint but poor guy just wants to throw pill after pill at me! Thanks again Will, I can really feel this is exciting me now that finally going to get a grip on this. Will keep you posted. Regards Millie
Date: Mon, 15 April 2013 11:32:12
Will thank'you' for once again putting my mind at rest - can't quite believe this was so much to do with my internal fighting, but now I see so much of this is responsible for my desperation. Feeling closed in and alone is pretty much something I don't think I can describe in terms of probably the worst feeling in the world and unless you've experienced it?! Will update but please feel free to mention our con versations on your blog as I feel so strong now and taking steady steps to deal with those bad times 'without' too much pressure. Regards Al
Hi Will! Just updating,
it's been pretty good 2 weeks here, and been doing lots of new stuff that I've never tried before, like rock climbing etc, really cool way to exercise by the way!
But yeah, couple days ago I started to feel bad thought, but not too bad, confused and light headed (don't know actually what light headed "means" but that could describe my feelings) but still somehow I've managed not to tense up.
I think all the thoughts and feelings should come under same umbrella, it doesn't matter what the thought/feeling is, what it's about, but the problem would appear to be tensing about them.
Blah, it's not easy to explain.. haha..
Date: Sat, 9 Feb 2013 12:39:56 +0300
Hi Will! I believe I'm moving to better direction here with my anxiety.
It's not still "dancing in the moonlight" but much better, I think I'm going through a "setback" here now. The week went pretty nicely; I went to talk to a curator this week, and she told me it is possible to get "therapy" or something during Army time, so I took the advice and booked a time to a therapist.So that's what I'm waiting "forward" to now.I feel like the talking helped me a lot, since I have kept much of my "darkest" thoughts/feelings inside me. Butbutbut, there is also this persons story (ex? sufferer) in your book, Nick Watts. His story seemed to be comparable at least a bit to my situation now. How long did you have touch with him, before he got "it" (the solution)? Just being curious, if I understood right, it took time with him aswell to "get better"? Wondering also if he took any AD's. And another question; Did you have any physical symptoms before you recovered from anxiety? Sometimes I get worried because I DONT have any physical symptoms (at least anymore), since I can do EVERYTHING "normally",sleep "normally" and stuff. (this is actually pretty much what confuses me the most). Did you have this too at some point? I mean, that you could do everything "normally", sleep normally, go to places etc etc. without feeling "more anxious" or anything but only problem "you" had was that your mind was just racing/having annoying thoughts and feelings, without them harming you in physical (or sleeping) way? Let me know if you didn't understand my explanation here :D Thank you anyways!-Anon.
Feb 3 '13 Thanks Will once again and just to feedback Ive had some rocky moments over the last few nights but now I completely agree there 'are' reasons for my depression. Just being honest I didnt think this would make any diffrence but I know Ive got a long hard battle to rehabituate as you say, everything has become too much at the moment. Thanks for the chat, Denny
Jan 5, 2013 Well Will I arrived in Wisconsin Friday last and what was all the fuss about! You were right and all that issue about new surroundings had knocked me off my perch! New situations I understand now can phase anybody out and I have started my new job and already feels hundred times better. Thankyou once again for your kind words and help as I really had become so desperate that I felt everything was going to leave me back sitting in LA! Any message you can put out there please do, as you're understanding of the technical side is remarkable really as I know exactly what's happening when I feel the pinch - just keep on flowing right through it Thanks again Will speak next week Missy
Dec 6, 12 Hi Will first of all, no problem writing and using this feedback on your 'tuition' page, as I'm fully in support of what you're doing here. Hearing it spoken words has helped me to work my way through understanding this fully now. Love the updated version too and clearly your success is taking this onto another level now - just one other thing is that I have never had any real inkling that there are other services out there like this with such an insght into exactly 'what' goes on in our heads.... Many thanks Lisa
Nov 15, 12 Will I was truly desperate when you called me last week and I honestly dont know what I would have done if you'd not been available that day! Thanks once again for your understanding and hearing what Nick has had to say in your book has brought me to the conclusion that I do have to be patient! More to the point, this last week has actually been tolerable for me, so thanks once again as I can bring myself back down. I understand I can't help that spike as you say. cheers mate James.